Commentary #121: What Is “Deferred Judgement?”

In my local community, we have our fair share of fascinating and interesting cases that emerge from our seven cities. Today, I want to talk about “deferred judgement” and how it applies to a man who has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder.

In September 2023, our local news stations reported that a 20-year-old man had been arrested for allegedly giving a 7-year-old girl an Apple AirTag hidden in a pack of stickers while he was working his cashier job at a Virginia Beach grocery store. The girl’s mother discovered the AirTag and threw it away before they went home. This incident occurred in mid-July 2023.

The man was fired from his job, and then there wasn’t a lot of other news until the end of March.

He pleaded guilty. The judge reviewed all the facts and decided to defer judgement until June 2024. The judge was able to do this because of a Virginia law that was passed in 2020.

SB133 “allows a court to defer and dismiss a criminal case where the defendant has been diagnosed with autism or an intellectual disability and the court finds by clear and convincing evidence that the criminal conduct was caused by or had a direct and substantial relationship to the person’s disorder or disability.”

Prior to 2020, the only similar remedy was for the defendant to plead insanity.

It turns out the woman in the grocery store wasn’t this man’s only victim. He had accidentally violated a restraining order that was taken out against him. He spent 12 hours in the Newport News City Jail. The victim in that case was a student at Christopher Newport University (CNU).

Both victims in court disagreed with the motion for a deferred judgement.

The defendant was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder in 2023. He’s been in weekly counseling sessions and supposedly made progress in group therapy, admitting that he now recognizes his action were creepy. In addition, “he also acknowledged that he may have caused his victims to have to seek out mental health care — just like he’d had to — and apologized.”

In addition to Autism Spectrum Disorder, a psychosexual evaluation identified impulse control and two sex-related disorders.

The intention for the deferred judgment is to give the defendant time, three months, to continue treatment and attend therapy.

The defendant is slated to appear in court again on June 24, 2024.

Resources

SB 133 Criminal cases; deferred disposition | Virginia’s Legislative Information System

Checkout crime: Wegman’s employee tried to hide tracker to track mother | WAVY

VB man with autism get deferred judgment after planting tracker in Wegman’s checkout | WAVY

Book Review #105: “Meet Isabel and Nicki”

I was so excited when this book was announced!

This is an additional book in Isabel and Nicki’s world. Last year, Isabel and Nicki were the newest historical characters. They both had journals released with their dolls. I was able to get copies of both books. I reviewed both of them consecutively:

It was so great this book was partially a stand-alone, but also references the journals. You don’t have to read the journals in order to understand their world, though, which is great!

I loved following Isabel’s and Nicki’s journeys together. It’s the end of 1999. There are so many pop culture references and nostalgia, especially for someone like me who was so close to their age at the time. I love that American Girl has branched out further into the modern decades, although I certainly cringed when they called 1999 “historical” – Ouch!

I was a mix of Isabel and Nicki as a kid. I loved dressing up and all the bright colors, but I also enjoyed being outside, riding my bike, and roller blading.

I hope American Girl releases more books! I want to see more of Isabel and Nicki after 1999!

4 1/2 out of 5 stars.


Until the next headline, Laura Beth 🙂

Commentary #120: Thoughts on NaNoWriMo

I decided to not participate in NaNoWriMo 2023, mainly because I thought I would be at the last month of my pregnancy and I wanted to make sure I was getting enough rest.

Turns out there was something else going on.

My friend Ren shared the news with me first. I was initially shocked and dismayed. And then I started doing my own research.

Full disclosure: Many things I’m going to discuss are allegations. No names have been brought forward, and I’m not sure they ever will be.


In the beginning, I also couldn’t find a lot of information online about this alleged incident. But as the months have passed, a clearer picture has emerged. I’ve listed my resources below, including information from NaNoWriMo.

Regardless, the research that I have done has solidified one decision: I don’t want to participate with NaNoWriMo going forward. The way the NaNoWriMo staff handled this incident, whether it’s true or not, was atrocious. Good for the people who stepped up and raised red flags and reported the incident(s). NaNoWriMo’s initial response to the entire thing was, in a word, odd, and I can’t tell if that was on purpose or not. I’ve studied some public relations, and I have a bachelor’s degree in Communication Studies Mass Media.

I’m honestly surprised this didn’t make the national news in November, especially because the allegations include a moderator grooming an undisclosed number of minors in the NaNoWriMo forums and Young Writer’s Program.

I fully understand that NaNoWriMo is a nonprofit, and they have a small staff. However, they are so well known among writers and get so much attention throughout the year for their Camp NaNoWriMo and NaNoWriMo sessions, so color me surprised when there wasn’t a lot of information or media coverage.

I think they tried to save face because they screwed up.

The good news, if anything, is that they did acknowledge, eventually, that there were multiple failings with this particular incident. From what I’ve read, they have already made multiple changes to the organization, including staffing. They say they are committed to further changes and are actively learning from this experience. It doesn’t excuse their initial response and handling, however.


Going forward, I won’t be supporting NaNoWriMo. I’ll track my progress on my novels independently.

In a way, this makes me sad. NaNoWriMo had been a big part of my life for the better part of 11 years. But, I’m thankful to Ren for sharing the initial information with me several months ago. It’s taken me this long to reconcile all of my thoughts and feelings about this.


Until the next headline, Laura Beth 🙂


Resources

https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/events/nanowrimo-grooming-controversy

https://christianwriters.com/threads/accusations-of-child-grooming-overshadow-nanowrimo.24933/

https://forums.nanowrimo.org/t/message-from-nanowrimo-board-january-2024-update-to-the-community/590363

https://forums.nanowrimo.org/t/board-response-to-complaints-about-forum-safety-and-the-safety-of-minors/580358

https://www.ashardin.com/blog/nanowrimo-board-of-directors-step-in-after-child-grooming-alligations-against-staff#/

Book Review #104: “Meet Claudie: An American Girl”

Claudie is one of American Girl’s newer historical characters. Her story takes place in Harlem in the 1920s!

I really enjoyed learning more about Harlem and how people lived during that time.

I’m not the biggest fan of how American Girl is releasing their historical character books now, but it certainly builds the excitement. Her next book is expected to be released very soon! I’m excited to read it and learn more about her adventures in New York and Georgia.

4 1/2 out of 5 stars.


Until the next headline, Laura Beth 🙂

Book Review #103: “Nicki’s Journal”

Nicki is the more “tomboy” or skater chick of the twins from 1999.

I love that she skateboards at age 9! I didn’t own a skateboard as a kid in the 1990s, but I loved my bike and roller skates. Once I got roller blades, I barely took them off until I outgrew them.

Nicki and Isabel are creative in their own ways!

4 out of 5 stars.


Until the next headline, Laura Beth 🙂

Book Review #102: “Isabel’s Journal”

American Girl just released two new characters – Isabel and Nicki. Twins from 1999!

It’s interesting how they are approaching books with new characters now. You get their journal first, and then their full story comes out later. Fascinating!

Isabel is the girly-girl twin. It’s funny, I feel like I was a mix of Isabel and Nicki when I was 9. I was older than them in 1999, but holy moly did this journal (and Nicki’s) throw me back!

I love how Isabel makes her countdown list and works to check off everything!

4 out of 5 stars.


Until the next headline, Laura Beth 🙂

Book Review #101: “The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks”

My across-the-street neighbor let me borrow her copy! I’ve wanted to read this book for years. I’d heard the news reports and articles about Henrietta and her family’s fight over her cells. But this book went so in depth. I’m glad I read it.

I learned that Henrietta and her family had roots in Clover, Virginia, which is very close to where my in-laws currently live! What a small world!

If you haven’t read this book, I highly recommend you do so. It’s a “typical” non-fiction book, where it can be dry and a bit boring, but author Rebecca Skloot successfully mixes science and Henrietta’s life. I learned so much about Henrietta, her family, and how the scientific community betrayed them all. And her story is not an isolated one, either. It’s an impressive book about the debate on medical ethics, along with our rights regarding our bodies, tissues, cells, and body parts.

4 1/2 out of 5 stars.


Until the next headline, Laura Beth 🙂

Commentary #119: Abortion

Image Credit: South OC Beaches

I’ve been through every single emotion since yesterday. On June 24, 2022, the United States Supreme Court made a decision that has plunged the nation into darkness, fear, and uncertainty.

I’m rethinking everything about my own life, even though I do want to have children. I’ve always wanted to have children. But now, I’m not sure I want to bring a child or children into this world.


Many of you know that I was raised in the United Methodist Church. Overall, I had a good church experience. I was never abused or traumatized, nothing drastic like that.

At the same time, I was taught to not have sex before marriage. Abortion was frowned upon, but not even really mentioned or discussed.

However, I had to educate myself today on the stance of the church on abortion.

What is the UM position on abortion?


I am staunchly pro-choice. And one singular event made me that way.

I was a freshman in college at Longwood. I don’t remember which class it was, or which semester, but it was either the fall of 2007 or the spring of 2008.

An anti-abortion protest took place on campus, between the Student Union and Stubbs Hall. Our professor asked us to attend, to witness it. We could leave at any time, but we had to check in with our professor before we left. I think I lasted maybe 10-15 minutes tops. I felt like I was going to throw up on the grass.

The protestors had graphic photos on signs, poster board and foam board, with Bible verses. There was a man with one of those portable loudspeakers with a megaphone that made think of the protests of the Vietnam War. They quoted Scripture constantly. Most of these people were adults, older than us. I don’t remember how many there were.

I could barely walk after leaving the Student Union. I don’t remember much of that day after that. I was horrified.

I knew, from that day forward, that I was not going to support any of that.

This was when I was 19 years old, I turned 20 in the summer of 2008. I was very naïve. I was always the good girl, the goody-two-shoes. I wanted to be the perfect child for my parents, the good Christian girl who studied hard and got good grades.

I’m trying to unlearn so many things now. I’m grateful for various counselors and therapists.

That protest altered me forever. I continued to attend church, because that’s what I had always done, but that protest was burned into my memory.


Also in college, I was in a relationship that I thought was love. I was with John from July 2006 through July 2010. July 17th, just a few weeks from now, marks 12 years since I was able to escape from him. Alive.

Now, years later, I’m fully convinced that he wanted to get me pregnant, so that we needed to get married and he could control me forever. Coercive control is real.

I remember looking up Planned Parenthood for the first time in my life, incredibly afraid, sometime in 2009. It was one of the few times that John wasn’t watching me.

I’m fortunate that I didn’t get pregnant then. I refused to have sex with him for the first two years, because I wanted to save it for marriage. I thought we were going to get married. I still remember my mom’s face when I told her that we were thinking about getting married after graduation.

He controlled me sexually. He sexually assaulted me more than once. In early, 2009, he nearly raped me. Thankfully, I was able to get him to listen to the word “No,” finally, after screaming it over and over. Once wasn’t enough.

I’m so glad I was able to get out.

I’m so glad that I have a wonderful man in my life, Al, who supports me (and women) 200 percent.


Moving Forward

I’m ready to fight like hell.

I’m donating to Planned Parenthood.

I’m ready to vote, like tomorrow.

If you’re not registered to vote in the U.S., I beg you to do so!

I’m screaming. It might be from a keyboard right now, but I have a voice. And I’m not afraid anymore.

And to those in Washington, D.C., you just pissed off so many people.

I’m still a Christian. But I will always be pro-choice.


Resources

Bans Off Our Bodies

How to Register to Vote

Planned Parenthood

safe2choose

We Won’t Go Back

Women’s March


Until the next headline, Laura Beth 🙂

Book Review #100: “Maritza: Lead with Your Heart” (World By Us)

The third book in the World By Us from American Girl was as equally compelling and thought-provoking as the other two.

As an American Girl collector, I wish I had the space for all of the community center items and accessories. It’s so colorful and fun!

I appreciated the fact that American Girl tackled immigration and deportation in this book. Like Evette’s and Makena’s books, it’s clear that this was well-researched and carefully crafted.

4 1/2 out of 5 stars.


Until the next headline, Laura Beth 🙂

Book Review #99: “Makena: See Me, Hear Me, Know Me” (World By Us)

After reading Evette’s book, I quickly moved to Makena’s book in the World By Us collection from American Girl.

Makena loves fashion, and posts her #OOTD (outfit of the day). I love how expressive she is!

Similar to Evette’s story, racism is a major theme in Makena’s story. Despite Makena’s struggles to come to terms with not one, but two incidents in her young life, I applaud American Girl for addressing both incidents in a thoughtful way. It definitely educated me.

It also encourages open communication between family members, and how talking about your feelings with someone that you can trust is so important.

Reading Makena’s story was another eye-opener for me, as a white woman, to how one phone call or one remark could very easily put someone else’s life at risk in an instant.

4 1/2 out of 5 stars.


Until the next headline, Laura Beth 🙂