Today marks fifteen years since Al and I went on our first date!
I remember being so nervous that I changed my clothes four times before Al came to my parents’ house. Yes, my parents still have the same house!
The most amazing thing is that I wanted to find an exact replica of the top I wore on September 4, 2010, only in a larger size. I still have the old one, in my closet, but it definitely does not fit anymore.
Desperate, I turned to Facebook. So many of my friends reached out and offered help! Finally, I downloaded the Depop app, which is one of the only places on the Internet and apps where I hadn’t looked. Miracle of miracles, someone was selling the exact top, in my size! I snatched it up for $10.00. It has a tiny hole in it, but I could care less. It arrived last week. I’m so excited to wear it tomorrow when we go out to celebrate. We are going to a great restaurant called Becca at the Cavalier Hotel in Virginia Beach, which isn’t too far away from Catch 31, where we had dinner that amazing night in September 2010.
Here are fifteen photos that are special to me.
September 6, 2010December 2014: Bauer Compressors Holiday PartyNovember 14, 2015December 2019: Bauer Compressors Holiday PartyMay 2022: P.E.O. Virginia State Convention Banquet, Portsmouth, VirginiaApril 2023: My cousin Ryan came to visit. He was in Chesapeake for a week for training with the Coast Guard.September 21, 2023: Michaela and Kyle’s wedding in Norfolk, VA. We didn’t know at the time that this would be one of last events we would attend before I had Addy!January 2025: Al’s surprise 40th birthday celebration!
Welcome back! After two years of not writing my annual birthday blog post, I’m back at it!
I’ll sum up 2023-2025 here. The summer of 2023 was a big deal because I was pregnant with our sweet girl, Addy. It was a hot and humid summer, but I survived! We celebrated a couple of weddings and new babies!
The summer of 2024 was also full of change. I started my new role with Sentara in April 2024. I had successes and challenges. Last summer in particular was really hard work-wise. I’m happy to report that things are much better. I feel like I have arrived. I can see myself working in physician credentialing for the rest of my career. I’m very happy to be able to say that confidently.
Last fall, almost a month apart to the day, we made the difficult decisions to put Phineas and Ferb to sleep. Phineas was continuing to decline physically and mentally, barely able to walk at the end. He peacefully crossed the Rainbow Bridge in October 2024.
Unfortunately, but not unexpectedly, Ferb showed signs of rapid decline about two weeks after Phineas died, so we helped Ferb cross the Rainbow Bridge in November 2024. This was exceptionally hard on both Al and I, but we know that we made the right decisions. Both of them were nearly 15 years old. They lived a wonderful life, and we were thrilled to have them home with us for nearly seven years. They were amazing dogs. We miss them. Hopefully, when Addy gets a little older, we can add another furry member to our family.
I continue to educate and advocate about preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome. There isn’t good data available, even my hospital where I delivered admitted this to my face, so I’m determined to keep this up. I plan to write a full post about my experience with it in a few months.
Addy is doing amazing things. It’s hard to believe that she will be 2 in October! She is so smart. She loves and devours (literally) books! We have nicknamed her Crash recently because she’s constantly crashing into everything. She’s absolutely all gas, no brake!
We celebrated 25 years of blood drives in April! That’s amazing. The same day, we collected our 9,000th unit. It was an incredible milestone. We have had two more drives since then, and we are up to 9,175 units. I’m so grateful, knowing that today marks the 37th anniversary of me being a blood recipient from my dad, that this work continues! I’m hoping to give again in October to celebrate 20 years of donating!
As for me, aside from working full-time, being a wife, and a mother, I’m continuing to write when I can. My 1950s romance is slated to be released at the end of the year! I have big plans for 2026 as well. Stay tuned!
Today, July 17, 2025, marks the 15-year anniversary that I was able to safely escape from my abusive ex-boyfriend, John. I’m grateful for all the support that I received back then and now. It’s hard to believe it’s been 15 years.
When I wrote the ten-year anniversary post in July 2020, we were just over four months into the global pandemic. It doesn’t feel like that was five years ago, it feels longer!
While I haven’t re-read Tornado Warning: A Memoir of Teen Dating Violenceand its Effects on a Woman’s Life or If I Am Missing or Dead: A Sister’s Story of Love, Murder, and Liberation recently, I think about both those books often.
I continue to educate myself about red flags, coercive control, financial abuse, gaslighting, and love bombing, among other things. I’m grateful to everyone who has listened to me share my experiences, or read my posts about this on the blog. My goal is to help people and educate themselves.
The other thing that I am very proud of is that I published my first novel on Amazon on February 21, 2023. I took pieces of my own experiences, created a compelling story that started all the way back with one question in November 2012, and now it’s out for the world to read. I appreciate everyone who has read it thus far, both in the U.S. and internationally. I have plans for more books, including a sequel to this one, which I’m hoping to publish in the next couple of years.
John was always critical of was my writing and my voice, so I am exceptionally proud of myself for reclaiming both and turning it into something amazing. You can’t shut me up.
Janine Latus continues to impress me and inspire me with her continued advocacy around the world. She recently gave an interview to the podcast Cardinal Crimes. I highly recommend that everyone watch the YouTube video where she is featured, I’ve linked it down below. It reminded me how grateful I am that I was able to leave safely. Not all women, or men, are as fortunate.
Domestic violence continues to be a major problem, particularly in the U.S. – It feels like every other day, there’s a new news report about a domestic disturbance that unfortunately escalated into something worse.
Here locally, several months ago, a woman who was five weeks pregnant with her third child was shot and killed by her ex-boyfriend. The house is down the street from my chiropractor’s office, which is only 10 minutes from my own house. They have two other children, and both were in the house when the tragedy occurred. These young children will have to live with that for the rest of their lives, compounded by the fact that their mother is dead, along with their unborn sibling, and their father is in prison for his actions. I’m glad the father was arrested quickly and is being held accountable. I was honestly afraid he was going to take the coward’s way out, either through suicide or suicide by cop. I hope the children are getting counseling and other support.
In the last 15 years, I have been fortunate to be embraced by Al. We met quite unexpectedly, and I wasn’t prepared to have a new friendship turn into love so quickly. I certainly didn’t expect to become friends with him in August 2010. Our first date was September 4, 2010. But I truly believe that we were meant to be together.
Now, we have Addy. We are so blessed that she is here and healthy. For someone who didn’t have high hopes of successfully conceiving and having a child or children given my family history (Grandma had seven miscarriages and my uncle and mom were both premature, then my mom had three miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy, then surgery to correct her deviated uterus, then my birth at 25 weeks), it was amazing that my pregnancy was relatively smooth with the exception of my blood pressure and those complications that led to Addy being born six weeks early.
She’s growing like a weed. I can’t believe she will be two (2) in October. I see a lot of me in her. I hope her feistiness will serve her well as she grows up. I know I can’t shelter her forever, nor do I want to. I want to instill the lessons that I have learned, particularly the ones I’ve learned the hard way, long before she finds herself in a sticky or dangerous situation. I want to be the best mom that I can be.
I want to do things differently than my mom did with me (Not saying that my mom wasn’t wonderful, she is!) But times have changed so much, and I have so many more tools now at my disposal, along with my experiences, to help Addy.
I’m spending today reflecting on how I got here, and where I’m headed. I have many more blog posts to write, more novels to publish, and I want to become a stronger advocate for survivors. If my story can help just one person, I will be satisfied.
Thank you for reading. I appreciate all of you, my readers, through this continued blogging journey.
I’m also exceptional grateful to Al, who took a chance on me almost 15 years ago. We are celebrating 10 years of marriage in November. My heart is full.
In my local community, we have our fair share of fascinating and interesting cases that emerge from our seven cities. Today, I want to talk about “deferred judgement” and how it applies to a man who has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder.
In September 2023, our local news stations reported that a 20-year-old man had been arrested for allegedly giving a 7-year-old girl an Apple AirTag hidden in a pack of stickers while he was working his cashier job at a Virginia Beach grocery store. The girl’s mother discovered the AirTag and threw it away before they went home. This incident occurred in mid-July 2023.
The man was fired from his job, and then there wasn’t a lot of other news until the end of March.
He pleaded guilty. The judge reviewed all the facts and decided to defer judgement until June 2024. The judge was able to do this because of a Virginia law that was passed in 2020.
SB133 “allows a court to defer and dismiss a criminal case where the defendant has been diagnosed with autism or an intellectual disability and the court finds by clear and convincing evidence that the criminal conduct was caused by or had a direct and substantial relationship to the person’s disorder or disability.”
Prior to 2020, the only similar remedy was for the defendant to plead insanity.
It turns out the woman in the grocery store wasn’t this man’s only victim. He had accidentally violated a restraining order that was taken out against him. He spent 12 hours in the Newport News City Jail. The victim in that case was a student at Christopher Newport University (CNU).
Both victims in court disagreed with the motion for a deferred judgement.
The defendant was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder in 2023. He’s been in weekly counseling sessions and supposedly made progress in group therapy, admitting that he now recognizes his action were creepy. In addition, “he also acknowledged that he may have caused his victims to have to seek out mental health care — just like he’d had to — and apologized.”
In addition to Autism Spectrum Disorder, a psychosexual evaluation identified impulse control and two sex-related disorders.
The intention for the deferred judgment is to give the defendant time, three months, to continue treatment and attend therapy.
The defendant is slated to appear in court again on June 24, 2024.
Publish at least two Book Reviews. — Accomplished!
Celebrate Valentine’s Day! — Accomplished!
Catalog at least 25 American Girl items in my inventory. — Did not accomplish yet.
Participate in a P.E.O. membership panel. — Accomplished!
Reorganize my office. — Semi-Achieved.
Send donations to Trey’s Dolls. — Did not accomplish yet.
February and March were both a blur and a marathon.
I was able to donate blood for the first time in a year, nearly a year to the day, in early February.
I finally finished formatting “Specialton” on March 29th. This is a huge accomplishment for me. I thought it was going to take me a lot longer. It’s 99 chapters. I sent it to my social media manager and my editor. They are excited, and so am I.
Valentine’s Day was really sweet and special. I love spending as much time with Al as possible.
I’ve made a lot of progress with my office. I finally cleaned off and dusted my desk. I filled a kitchen garbage bag with stuff that needed to be thrown away months ago. I set up my mechanical keyboard that Al got me for Christmas! I have more things to do, but I’m really happy with the cleaning and organizing that I’ve done recently.
I published two Book Reviews! You can read them here:
As a true crime podcast junkie, the blurb was enticing to me right away. I loved that each chapter was dedicated to a different person. This book held my attention, especially because I read the majority of it while I was in the hospital after having Addy in October.
This is an additional book in Isabel and Nicki’s world. Last year, Isabel and Nicki were the newest historical characters. They both had journals released with their dolls. I was able to get copies of both books. I reviewed both of them consecutively:
It was so great this book was partially a stand-alone, but also references the journals. You don’t have to read the journals in order to understand their world, though, which is great!
I loved following Isabel’s and Nicki’s journeys together. It’s the end of 1999. There are so many pop culture references and nostalgia, especially for someone like me who was so close to their age at the time. I love that American Girl has branched out further into the modern decades, although I certainly cringed when they called 1999 “historical” – Ouch!
I was a mix of Isabel and Nicki as a kid. I loved dressing up and all the bright colors, but I also enjoyed being outside, riding my bike, and roller blading.
I hope American Girl releases more books! I want to see more of Isabel and Nicki after 1999!
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