Getting Personal #4: Exploring Self-Love and Self-Esteem

“Life is our greatest possession and love its greatest affirmation.” ~Dr. Leo Buscaglia

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Image Credit: http://www.wdyl.com


Have you ever heard someone tell you, “I love him/her more than life itself?”

Have you said it yourself?

Making that declaration can be interpreted in several ways:

(a) You would do absolutely anything for this person.

(b) If need be, you’re not afraid to lay down your life for them, or rescue them, or do everything in your power to save their life.

(c) You’re more than willing to put them above yourself, every single day.

(d) You can’t imagine your life without them in it.

(e) All of the above.


I write this post with a heavy heart. I have several friends struggling right now with multiple issues, including love and self-esteem. There are so many days I wish I could be the one to just take their pain away, but I’m not Superwoman, nor will I ever be.

For now, I just love others in my life as best that I can. I listen, I ask questions, I’m there for them as much as possible. But mostly, I try to listen and let them tell me their story or stories. I want them to know that I am present, and more than happy to help them as much as I possibly can as Laura Beth is able to. I just try to be the best friend that I absolutely can be.


I personally believe that loving yourself as your own person is equal, if not more so, important to loving someone else. You are you, first and foremost. You need to appreciate yourself and work to understand yourself first. Your likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, and so on.

But, that’s just me and my opinion.


I want to make this post a source of information as well. I like doing research, and spreading help and knowledge wherever I can.

Here’s Psychology Today’s take on self-love.

This is a fascinating step-by-step process on loving yourself.

Have questions about self-esteem? Look no further.

Here’s one more guide to self-esteem – Take a look.


As I said earlier, I’m here to listen. I certainly like writing and sharing information with you, but one of the greatest joys I have in life is visiting and talking with people. I wish that certain people in my life weren’t so far away, so I do my best to keep up via Facebook.

In 2015, I plan to get much better about writing more letters and dropping more cards in the mail over the course of the year. If you’re interested, give me your address! I love sending and receiving mail – It’s like Christmas when something other than a bill comes to my house!!


Until the next headline, Laura Beth ๐Ÿ™‚

Adventure Time: Farmville, VA Edition

Back in October, I had the opportunity to spend a weekend in my beloved Farmville.

Farmville is the home of my alma mater, Longwood University. I loved every single second as a student there. I jump at every opportunity to come back and visit.

The reason I traveled to Farmville in the middle of October was for a very special event – The Grand Re-Opening of Stubbs Hall.

Stubbs Hall was my home for my senior year, as a sister of Alpha Sigma Tau. It has historically been Longwood’s sorority dorm. It is the one of just two female-only residence halls still in existence – Longwood went co-ed in 1976!

When I was a resident, Stubbs had no A/C. It was a great place to live, but it was definitely old.


When I arrived in Farmville on Friday afternoon, I was not prepared for the sights that I saw.

It looked like the entire town had transformed in just three and a half years. So many familiar places are gone now – Kroger, Dairy Queen, Shoney’s.

The Robert Russa Moton Museum is getting a great addition.

The Lancer Cafe in the Student Union looked completely different.

And that weekend, the beloved Cunninghams Hall was being prepped for demolition.


And even though there were stark changes, I was still thrilled to be in Farmville. I was reunited with my good friend Justin. I met his girlfriend, Heaven, in person for the first time. I got to see a ton of my sisters, both alumnae and active on campus. I stayed in a hotel room with two amazing sisters all weekend.

We explored Farmville on Saturday morning before the Stubbs events began. I returned to Pairets, Red Front Trading Company, Barnes & Noble, and Chick-fil-A. I experienced The Fishin’ Pig for the very first time, as well as 202 Bar and Grill. I laughed so hard I cried and almost fell off the hotel bed. One sister hosted a marshmallow roast and cornhole at her house on Saturday night. I had a blast.


And, of course, no adventure would be complete without pictures!

Amazing sisters in our spectacular new chapter room - They even kept the beloved built-in shelves! Facebook Credit: Kristin Walker

Amazing sisters in our spectacular new chapter room – They even kept the beloved built-in shelves!
Facebook Credit: Kristin Walker

I love Kristin! Facebook Credit: Kristin Walker

I love Kristin!
Facebook Credit: Kristin Walker

The beautiful Alyssa! Media Credit: Alyssa Taylor

The beautiful Alyssa!
Facebook Credit: Alyssa Taylor

Sisters outside of Stubbs! Facebook Credit: Heather Lin

Sisters outside of Stubbs!
Facebook Credit: Heather Lin

I love my sorority. I love my sisters!

Stay classy, Farmville.

I’m sure I’ll see you again sooner rather than later.


Until the next headline, Laura Beth ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

 

Getting Personal #3: Katie and Drew

Photo Credit: Al Vardaro

Photo Credit: Al Vardaro

I’m going to take you back to January 2013 for a few minutes. See that picture, there? That’s me, on the far right. And, next to me are two of the most amazing friends that I have ever had the pleasure of knowing – Drew and Katie. We, along with Al (He took this picture) went to see Silver Linings Playbook that night. One of the best movies ever, and I couldn’t think of better people to have seen it with!


Now I’m going to rewind a little further – Try six years earlier. In the fall of 2007, the three of us were just strangers to each other. The main thing we had in common was that we were all new freshmen at Longwood University.

Well, not exactly. In June of that year, Drew and Katie had met in Blackwell Hall, before it was renovated. It used to be the university bookstore. As freshmen, we all had to read this book – Klan-Destine Relationships by Daryl Davis.

That book was what brought Katie and Drew together for the first time.

Ask them about the framed receipt some time ๐Ÿ™‚


By October 2007, they were dating.

I don’t remember exactly when I officially met them, which is super sad. But, looking at old pictures has been a blast!

It was through a mix of mutual friends – Brian Appich in particular. Here he is, with Katie and I, back in September 2010 as Longwood SENIORS!

Photo Credit: Longwood University Student

Photo Credit: Longwood University Student

The German Club was involved. This picture was taken in September 2008! That was the beginning of our sophomore year. Wow!!

Katie Drew LB 2008

Unfortunately, I can’t seem to find a more recent picture of us.ย Darn it!

When we meet up next time, that will definitely have to change!


There is one particular reason why I wanted to write this post. Drew and Katie’s love has inspired me. They have been together now for over 7 YEARS! Holy cow.

Some of you may know that I went through an abusive relationship for the majority of my time at Longwood. Drew and Katie both knew John. But, even as my own relationship was spiraling downward on campus, seeing their love for each other left me in awe. The pictures above prove it.

Then I met Al in 2010, and the four of us have become so close-knit. It’s been awesome. I’m so thrilled that our friendship has endured for so long. I’m equally, if not more so, grateful that Katie and Drew have loved Al as much as I do. You guys are great!!

We’re all very busy, so we try to meet up every couple of months, since Drew and Katie are currently in a long-distance relationship. But, whenever we can, we make a plan and we get together. We ALWAYS have a fantastic time together, and every time we meet, it passes by all too quickly.

My hope is that we remain friends for the rest of our lives.


More importantly, they recently took a big step in their relationship.

After MONTHS of planning, Drew proposed to Katie almost four weeks ago.

Here’s the sweet video that was captured by Michael Phillips Photography. Have a tissue ready!

Drew’s Proposal


Until the next headline, Laura Beth ๐Ÿ™‚

Adventure Time: Richmond, Virginia Edition

I love traveling. And any time I’m able to take a road trip, I make time for it!

Al and I drove up to Richmond yesterday to hang out with our friends Drew and Justin. We had a fantastic day!

After arriving at Drew’s house, we piled in his mom’s Ford Fusion and headed to lunch. We went to Cheeburger Cheeburger, a great 1950s diner style restaurant that has create-your-own-burgers, syrup sodas, and milkshakes. It started in Sanibel Island, Florida. We all got burgers, along with either fries or what they call The Best of the Best – fries and onion rings. Their onion rings are some of the best that I have ever had – So crispy and crunchy!

After lunch, we got back in the car and headed for Thunderbolt Indoor Kartingย for some go-kart racing. This place is amazing!! It has a small arcade, party room, and this massive track. The karts can go up to 45 miles per hour! We paid for one race, which is 16 laps. This is a serious track — Closed-toed shoes, racing helmets, and neck braces. It was awesome! Drew won our race. Justin was second, I was third, and Al was fourth. It was a blast! There was even a three-level podium where you could pose for pictures! For more info, check them out on Facebook.

Courtesy: media-cdn.tripadvisor.com

Courtesy: media-cdn.tripadvisor.com

After the rush of go-karts, we drove a little ways down the road to the Putt-Putt Fun Centerย for more fun. As soon as you open the door, you are greeted with a massive arcade where you can win tickets for prizes. Go out the back door and you see three Putt-Putt courses, bumper boats, and their own go-kart track. The center has a great deal – Three activities for $18.00. We all got a ticket where the 1, 2, and 3 were marked off when we went to the stations.

We played a round of Putt-Putt first on Course #1. It was some tough competition. There are 18 holes, all with a par 2. We took our time and had a ton of fun. Yours truly emerged victorious.

It was hot and humid yesterday, so we were all very sweaty by the end of Course #1. We made our way to the bumper boats. This was the best – It was bumper cars on water, plus each boat had a “Squirt” button! We drove around the pool attacking each other with refreshing streams of water. It looked a lot like this:

Courtesy: myputtputt.com

Courtesy: myputtputt.com

After we were sufficiently soaked, we picked up our clubs for our second round of Putt-Putt. We completed Course #2. This was a closer match than the first. Justin and I were neck-and-neck for most of the 18 holes. Finally, Justin emerged as the victor.

As we left the Putt-Putt Fun Center, we ordered Domino’s pizza and went to pick them up. The car smelled amazing!

When we got back to Drew’s, we set the pizzas aside and started the batter for our Brownie Bowl Sundaes. You can find the recipe here!

As the brownie bowls were baking, we settled in to watchย The Wolverine. Justin and I had never seen it, and it was pretty good from the beginning. We never finished it, but it was good entertainment as we ate the pizza and waited for the brownies to finish.

Those sundaes were awesome! Drew added some Hershey’s instant pudding to keep them moist – SO GOOD!

As we were eating dessert, we went upstairs to finish the movie. We ended up searching YouTube for Key & Peele sketchesย and Epic Rap Battles of History, and then the conversation switched to the San Diego Comic-Con, which wraps up today. We all freaked out when we learned that there was news of a Batman vs. Superman teaser trailer. It was finally released this morning, but unfortunately, by the time of this writing, it had been removed from YouTube ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

Here are some of the epic pictures released so far:

Needless to day, we are all STOKED!!!

We switched gears to play several rounds of Sour Apples to Apples – So much fun!

This was a fantastic Saturday. Al and I were so sad to leave, but we had an hour and a half drive to complete.

Justin and Drew, we need to do this again soon!

Until the next headline, Laura Beth ๐Ÿ™‚

Beautiful Birthdays

I’m starting a new series of posts. I want to highlight the birthdays of special people in my life, with the goal of publishing each post on the person’s actual birthday ๐Ÿ™‚

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I’m kicking off the series with not one, but TWO people who were born on April 3rd!

April’s birthstone is the Diamond. The Zodiac signs are Aries (March 21 – April 19) and Taurus (April 20 – May 20).

Today, these two share a birthday with writer Washington Irving, actress Jan Stirling, astronaut Virgil Grissom, Jane Goodall, President Obama, Eddie Murphy, Alec Baldwin, skier Picabo Street, and Amanda Bynes, to name a few.


 

First and foremost, is the man who loved me first – my Daddy!

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Can you guess when and where this picture may have been taken? ๐Ÿ˜‰

My dad’s the best. He’s been a major role model for me. Here’s 10 of the best things about him:

1. We have an awesome relationship. He’s always made me feel loved and appreciated. He’s definitely taught me hard lessons, but every minute has been worth it. The title of this blog comes from him – He started calling me “Hot Shot” forever ago. We have no idea how it started, but it’s stuck and I love it. It’s our nickname, so to speak.

2. I can call him at any time. He’s always willing to listen and offer non-emotional advice to me, even if I’m having a meltdown at 12:30 a.m.

3. Dad made me consider (stressing the wordย consider) the military as a career. I’m so proud to have been a Coast Guard brat.

4. Dad taught me how to do handy things – I watched him change the oil in our station wagon for the first time when I was in elementary school and that’s what started it all. I now change the oil in my Camry like clockwork, I know how to change a tire on a car and a truck, I’m decent at driving a stick, etc. And it’s not limited to just cars – I know how to change window screens, clean gutters, build a proper fire, use a chainsaw and a ton of other power tools, paint a room, and even a little bit of plumbing.

5. Dad is mission-oriented. I have seen him give so much time and effort to both local and international organizations for over 20 years. When we joined our Methodist Church in 1992, that’s one of the first things he got involved with, and he’s never left. Everything from feeding the homeless, to wrapping Christmas gifts for kids that have incarcerated parents, to blood drives, to mission trips; it never ends.

6. ย Dad has an awesome talent for music. Growing up, he dabbled in the trumpet, drums, percussion. He was in the high school marching band and I’m sure he did something musical at the USCGA. Now, he’s been one of four men in the church handbell choir for the last 15 years and loves it!

7. Dad was my inspiration to start volunteering at blood drives and start giving blood. This is one of our shared passions. First, he gave blood for me when I was born at 25 weeks – That’ll be 26 years in a few months. He’s kept a folded piece of paper in his wallet that lists the date and location of every blood donations he’s given, and that’s been since the early 70s! Fast forward to the late 90s – Dad saw a need for a blood drive and thought our church could fill it. One of our church members had been diagnosed with non-Hodgkins lymphoma in 1999 and we held a joint blood / bone marrow drive for her. That was in April 2000. We went from two drives in 2000 to our clockwork drives – The second Saturday of every even-numbered month (six times per year). We’ll celebrate our 14th anniversary drive in about a week – April 12th – and we are closing in on reaching 5,000 total units collected. We average around 55-60 units per drive, so we hope to celebrate 5,000 in June or August ๐Ÿ™‚

8. Dad’s an amazing husband to my mom. They’ve been married for 32 years!

9. Dad was my savior when it came to math (until college, anyway – I was on my own for Honors Statistics). Mom was all thumbs after I got to middle school. Plus, being an engineer by trade certainly doesn’t hurt in this department. Some of my funniest memories were when we did my homework over multiple lines of communication. Example – He had to move to Florida for a work contract when I was in 7th grade; he was gone for almost 10 months. When I brought home my Pre-Algebra work, I’d finish it to the best of my ability, scan it, and email it to him. He’d review it, and then fax it back to me at home with any corrections (or suggestions as he likes to say). One of us would call the other and we’d discuss it until everything seemed right in the math world! We repeated this process when I was in high school Geometry and he was on the West Coast for work for a couple of months. It was certainly interesting!

10.ย Dad was / is a great role model for keeping me active. It started in the pool. He took me water-skiing when I was 6. We rode bikes all over the neighborhood with my mom. When I started rollerblading, he and Mom would ride their bikes and when I started to slow down, he’d throw me a tow rope and he’d pull me all the way home at breakneck speed. I played rec soccer for 7 years, so there were lots of pick-up games in the backyard. I played rec softball for one season, but Dad worked with me for a couple years before that to help condition me. We played catch in New York’s Central Park. When we flew to Florida to visit my grandparents, we packed a bat, gloves, and this crazy contraption of a softball on a fiberglass pole that tremendously improved my hitting. You get the picture. Dad also learned to ride a unicycle years ago – and we still have it in the garage.

I love you, Dad!

 


The second amazing person is Michaela Leigh D’Angelo!

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This is her and her sweet doggie!

10 fun facts:

1. She has an older sister, Karen. Karen’s a year older than I am and Michaela Leigh is two years younger than me, so we’re tight. We three have been friends for literally forever – This is what happens when your moms are literal best friends that met through teaching 30+ years ago!

2. She’sย an assistant at a local marina. It all started with an opportunity to sail on a couple’s yacht a couple summers ago. Apparently you can’t take the boat out of her now.

3. She loves dogs – particularly dachshunds. Her family had sweet Sadie for almost 15 years until recently. But she has Ruby now and she’s just precious!

4. She’s gone back and forth between her first name and middle name. For years, it was Michaela. For a couple more years, it was Leigh. I’m starting to abbreviate to ML now ๐Ÿ™‚

5. She studied French language and literature in college. I’m almost certain she’s fluent too. I would call her a linguist!

6. She studied abroad in France. I was so jealous of her the entire time she was overseas!

7. She dressed up as Rosie the Riveter one year for Halloween – That’s awesome. To this day, that still is one of the most BAMF costumes that I have ever seen.

8. Her makeup is always perfect, and she’s known for her signature red lipstick.

9. She and Karen both have had the most beautiful long hair (Karen’s kept it short for a long time, but ML’s left it long and it’s awesome!). Again, I’m jealous – My hair gets weird if it grows past a certain length. But their hair – On point.

10. She learned the cello early on and was amazing at it!


 

Well, there you go. First birthday post. I don’t think that I’ll do 10 fun facts every time, but I’ll learn as I do more of these. Many more to come!

Until the next headline, Laura Beth ๐Ÿ™‚